I’ll try anything at least once.

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A few weeks ago I started following a radio DJ from Indiana on Facebook. I found his page through a mutual radio friend we have. His page had over 13k likes. I immediately assumed he worked for some huge station, possibly the biggest in his state, but when I looked up his station I found out that it only had 6k likes. The only possible explanation for this is that this dude is crazy good at branding himself and getting people to connect with him. I was immediately intrigued and wanted to know how he did it. So I sent him a message and a few minutes later he told me to call the studio he worked at so we could chat.

We talked for about an hour and he gave me some great advice. I could tell that he had insane charisma and is really funny, which I knew had to be part of why people loved him so much. He looked over my social media pages and gave me advice on what to change to increase my reach and my popularity. The number one thing he told me I needed to do was to start vlogging. I have never ever vlogged before in my life and the idea of videoing myself talking about random things seemed like something I would not be good at, be assured me that it was easy and it’d be fun. So tuesday night, during my late night show at KWVA, I made my first vlog.

I just went for it. Thats the approach I tend to take when I’m about to do something for the first time. You can’t syke yourself out or you won’t do it at all. So I made some random video, showing the studio, showing me to a talk break, and just generally doing random things. By the end of my show that night, that video had become the most “liked” post I’ve ever made on my radio page.

I started thinking about it and I realized that vlogging really isn’t that much different than being on radio. You just talk about things, show your personality, make it interesting, and try to get people to connect with you. The only difference is that with a vlog, they can also see you! Which is awesome because it just lets people connect with you on that much higher of a level. After that, I understood why the DJ I talked to was so jazzed on vlogging, and why he was exactly right about it working to broaden my reach.

I decided to start posting vlogs twice a week, once on Tuesdays during my show at KWVA, and once on Friday mornings while I’m on the morning show at KDUK. Consistency is key when vlogging, because you need to keep people interested. You should post frequently enough that people stay interested, but not so often that they get annoyed or overwhelmed with all the videos.

People like to see the quirky side of other people. We all have a desire to connect with other people and see that they are similar to us. I was really hesitant to try vlogging at first but now I am really stoked to keep making them because I realized they will help me showcase to people what I’m really passionate about and why. I have a passion for connecting with people, telling stories, making people laugh, and just being the goofball that I am.

If you want to follow me on Facebook and keep up with my vlogs, you can click this incredibly long link. 

Haters gon’ hate

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A few weeks back, a listener posted a lengthy wall post to the Facebook page of the morning radio show I work on. The message was anything but positive. To make her long story short, she said she had been a long time listener of our show and had been around for many talent changes and the only personality she has ever hated on the show was me. She went on to detail all the reasons she thought I was awful. Now, I can handle constructive criticism, but this woman was straight up insulting me. But I guess if she was trying to be helpful and not insulting then she would have just privately messaged us her opinions instead of posting it on our wall for everyone to see. But she didn’t.

So what is it with this obsession people have of publicly bashing other people on the internet? And more importantly, why do they think their opinion on other people matters? These are the thoughts that run through my mind every time I see posts like that woman’s, which is daily, because we are all bombarded with it. It seems like a lot of these hateful comments are about celebrities, but we have to remember they are humans too. Even Taylor Swift gets her feelings hurt when she reads overly mean comments about herself. Everyone has feelings and no one deserves to read those awful things about themselves, posted by people who, in all honest, do not even know them at all.

But it’s going to happen. It’s just a fact of life. Taylor Swift knew it when she started in music, I knew it when I started in radio. People are going to say mean things, for a variety of reasons, and you can’t do a damn thing about it. The only thing you can control is how you react to it.

When an interviewer asked famous sports reporter Pam Oliver how she deals with the hateful comments about her on the internet and she said “I don’t deal with it. It doesn’t impact my life in any way.” She also stated a quote by Elenor Roosevelt that said “No one can make you feel bad about yourself without your consent.” And both women are completely on the right track.

You will never be able to control what other people say about you and you will never get everyone to like you. If everyone does like you, then you don’t have much of a personality! The key is to being yourself and being happy with yourself. The only thing you can control is your reactions to the mean comments. If you let it get inside your head then it will tear you down. Or, you can choose to just not care. Brush it off and move on.

Or, your third option is to be like me and make a sarcastic comment back at your hater. That’s a pretty fun option.